Dating and Marriage

I do not think that I want a "me" marriage like the New York Times article talked about. While yes, I think it is could be an important part of marriage to have someone that offers financial security or something that makes individuals happy, I think it it even more important to have a relationship that makes both people happy. I think in order for a relationship to be healthy and strong, the people need to balance each other out and grow together. There also needs to be room to spend time with other people, but a healthy relationship cannot be only about two individuals instead of one couple. On the other hand, I agree with the article from the US Catholic Conference of Bishops. I want a relationship with commitment and communication. For me to be in a strong relationship, I need to be able talk to my husband so that we can solve our problems. We also need to be committed to each other so that even when we do fight, we can still come back together and fix what ever problem we have. All of these things are for the future for the most part. While these qualities are important for any relationships, I see these as essential for marriage. Right now, I'm not looking for a husband in whatever relationship I may become involved in. I do want to get married in the future, but I think it is really unlikely that I will find that person any time now. Also, I want to make sure that I am mature enough to enter into a committed relationship before I actually do. This is why I think going into a relationship thinking about marriage at my age is not smart. I think my intentions right now are more modern society than Christian because I'm not dating to get married. Even though I do want a relationship in the future that is more related to the Christian values, that is the future. This just means that right now I'm not ready for marriage-level commitment, but on that same token I'm not dating around and I don't want to be involved in completely meaningless relationships.